Talking about Bullying

Know the 411

Dr. Brad Schwall
  • Bullying can be direct – name calling, physical harm, or indirect – gossip, rumors, cyber-bullying
  • Bullying involves aggressive behavior with the intent to harm
  • It is behavior done repeatedly over time
  • It occurs within an imbalance of power
  • Bullying occurs more when there is less adult supervision
  • Bullying is prolonged when bystanders watch or join in
  • Boys experience more direct bullying and girls experience more indirect bullying

The following strategies help in preventing and responding to bullying:

  • Build friendships
  • Avoid being isolated
  • Develop problem-solving skills
  • Seek help from adults

Start a Conversation

  • “What kinds of bullying do you see at school?”
  • “What do you think are the best ways to handle bullying?”
  • “What thoughts do you have when someone says something mean to you?  Do you believe what they say?”
  • “What can you think to help yourself be confident?”

Listen and Reflect

  • “Sometimes it seems like we shouldn’t tattle, but talking to someone about what is happening can help us think about how to handle it.”
  • “Kids can be pretty mean sometimes.  Everyone is treated meanly at one time or another.”
  • “It sounds like those words were pretty hurtful to you.”
  • “What are your options for handling that?”

Affirm

  • Affirm for thinking of positive solutions to bullying.
  • Affirm for sharing about experiences with bullying.
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